Women in leadership positions in credit unions: The barriers we create in our minds

first_imgThink about this … I was planning on putting on a telesummit with 25 other women.  I had hand-selected them, had the email invitation to them, and was excited to be organizing and facilitating it, until those words creeped into my brain – I’m not big enough or famous enough or smart enough. I even threw in tall enough and told my husband I was cancelling it before I even got started.  He asked me why and I gave him my spiel of the “enough” nonsense.  He looked at me and said, very calmly and lovingly, “are you nuts?” He continued with “People want to be around you. They trust you and admire you.  They respect who you are and how you are in it for them. Don’t let them down.”  What do you say to that?  I said I would give it until 6:00 and if I have any second thoughts, I’m cancelling it.  So, at 1 minute to 6, I hit send on 25 emails and turned my computer off, totally.  I couldn’t bear people telling me no and called it a night. Then, 12 hours later, at 6am, I turned my computer on and 24 of the 25 said, “yes, absolutely, thank you for asking me, honored,” and on and on. I looked for the 25th and an hour later it also came in with a big yes. She was in Australia and the time difference was the only reason it was late.  I share this story often because no matter who you are, what you represent or why you do what you do, “enough” will creep in and you have to do everything to chase it away. It’s all about those barriers that we have in our minds, are they real or not?The telesummit was a huge success. The women, the information, the value was such a winning combination. I had created a barrier that could have cancelled everything great and left me with the “oh woe is me syndrome.”  You see I had created barriers that were bigger than my goals and already had the scenario playing out of what would happen if I had decided to go through with this crazy plan. I decided that the only way I was going to use the word “enough” was to convince myself that enough was clearly enough. All the results I knew in my mind that were going to happen, didn’t and that is usually what happens. We are so sure that whatever we want to do won’t happen in a positive way that we can visualize failure and smell it before it even has a moment to be created. Why do we do that?There are several things that cause us to lose our confidence and feel like the barriers are closing in.  Here are just a few: Age – Many times we let our age define us. Whether we are too young or too old. Sometimes we tell ourselves that and sometimes others tell us what we should and shouldn’t do.  If you want to break down some of those barriers, don’t listen to them.What other people think – No matter what we tell ourselves, we still compare ourselves to others. That is really a waste of time and energy. Why compare yourself to those on social media since they are showing only what they want you to see? Where is that being authentic? Feel good about what you are doing, what you have already done and what you are planning to do. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.Toxic people – Who are you surrounding yourself with? Are they people that you trust and admire? Will they support you to reach your goals? Or…are they energy vampires? I make it a point to release all toxic people from my life. I don’t lose them because they can be found.  I release them so they don’t return. Fear – As I mentioned, we have great imaginations and we tend to create an entire volume of stories that can happen to us. Fortunately they don’t.  Fear is a choice. I encourage my clients to step into the unknown and I always ask, “What’s the worst that can happen?” and follow that up with, “What’s the best that can happen?”Are you living in the past or hoping for the future? We all know that the past is the past and it can’t be changed. However, when you concentrate on the future, you do have the ability to make it something that you are excited to reach…but it’s still not here right now. Being in the present and living in the present lets others know that you are ready for the opportunities that are in front of you and that you are taking the present for what it is…a gift.Do you see yourself creating barriers from any of the reasons I mentioned?  Time to talk it out with a coach or mentor or someone you trust and flip your mindset to the positive side, so those barriers are taken down, not built up. The truth is, most people are not willing to disregard some of the feelings they have and do what needs to be done to eliminate the barriers. It’s time to understand that when you break through the barriers once, you will realize it was never as bad as you thought it would be.  When your “Why” is strong enough, you will be willing to do the “How” …Think of it this way … Start small – we have to practice to get it right. If you’re in sports or play an instrument or anything that you want to become the expert in, you have to practice. You start small and work your way up. The more often you face that barrier and confront it, the more successful you will be and the next time it shows up, you’ll be able to walk right through it. Then … Trust yourself – What will it take for you to stop worrying about what others think or what their opinion of you is? When you start to trust yourself, your potential is unlimited. No matter how successful we are, we still second guess ourselves. When I was at a conference, a Queen was in the audience and she told me that every time she has to make a decision that will affect someone’s life, she second guesses herself, so consider yourself in great company. Take time to learn the lessons that life throws your way. These lessons will be critical to your success as you make progress along your journey toward your goals.Arthur C. Clarke said, “The limits of the possible can only be defined by going beyond them into the impossible.” 2SHARESShareShareSharePrintMailGooglePinterestDiggRedditStumbleuponDeliciousBufferTumblr,Judy Hoberman Men and women sell, manage, recruit and supervise differently.  Judy Hoberman, creator of “Selling in a Skirt”, shares essential insights about gender differences and how to embrace and use those … Web: www.sellinginaskirt.com Detailslast_img read more

The Latest: Southeastern Conference cancels spring meetings

first_imgThe International World Games Association says it will shift the dates of its signature event to an earlier date in 2021 or to a similar time in 2022.The World Games began in 1981 and are held every four years to showcase disciplines that are not on the Olympic program, such as sumo, floorball, billiards, lifesaving, orienteering, dance sport and tug of war. Birmingham won the right to stage the 11th edition, beating out Lima, Peru and Ufa, Russia to become the first U.S. host since Santa Clara, California for the inaugural World Games.Birmingham expects some 3,600 athletes from more than 100 nations to participate.The IWGA has been especially affected by the coronavirus outbreak that has largely shut down sports around the world. The organization’s president, José Perurena, has tested positive in Spain. ABC/ESPN has moved up the premier of the 10-part docuseries “The Last Dance” featuring Michael Jordan and the 1990s Chicago Bulls to April 19. The docuseries will be shown on ESPN on Sunday nights and on Netflix outside of the United States.It was originally scheduled to be released in June but sports fans have clamored on social media for the series to be moved up in the wake of the coronavirus outbreak and with most sporting events canceled or postponed.The news was announced on Good Morning America.The Bulls won six NBA titles during the 1990s and were led by Jordan, Scottie Pippen, Steve Kerr and Dennis Rodman.___ Organizers of the Swiss Indoors tennis tournament in Roger Federer’s hometown of Basel say ticket sales will start on schedule on Thursday.The tournament is due to run from Oct. 26 to Nov. 1. Organizers say tickets will be refunded “should the coronavirus crisis continue and the Swiss tennis highlight not take place.”The ATP Tour is currently suspended until at least June.Federer and his wife donated 1 million Swiss francs ($1.04 million) last week to help families in need in his home country during the pandemic.Federer is a 10-time champion at the Swiss Indoors and will turn 39 before this year’s tournament. He was twice a ball boy at the event and made his debut as a player in 1998 when he was 17. He lost in the first round to Andre Agassi. Share This StoryFacebookTwitteremailPrintLinkedinRedditThe Latest on the effects of the coronavirus outbreak on sports around the world:___The Southeastern Conference now has canceled its spring meetings because of the coronavirus. McEnroe, younger brother of eight-time major champion John, said he did a drive-through test in upstate New York after developing what he called “minor symptoms” about 10 days ago.Patrick McEnroe said: “The good news is I feel fine. My symptoms have passed. I feel, really, 100 percent.”As a player, he won one tournament in singles and 16 in doubles, including the 1989 French Open.He succeeded his brother as Davis Cup captain and served in that job for nearly a decade, leading the United States to the title in 2007.The younger McEnroe also served as general manager of player development for the U.S. Tennis Association. The Royals would have opened their season against the White Sox last week in Chicago. Their home opener would have been Thursday against the Mariners. At this point, nobody is quite sure when the club will take the field.Longtime outfielder Alex Gordon donated to the Royals’ food drive. He says that his family is staying home during the pandemic, but “we feel very blessed, and we want to make sure our neighbors are taken care of.”___Naismith Memorial Basketball Hall of Fame President & CEO John Doleva said the organization is moving forward with its planned London Showcase doubleheader in December that will match Kentucky against Michigan and Marist against UMBC.Doleva said in a statement that it “remains diligent in monitoring the situation and making decisions in the best interest of public health.” He added that the health and safety of players, fans and staff is of the “utmost importance” and will communicate with the four schools with updates as needed. Hungarian Olympic swimmer Boglarka Kapas says she has tested positive for COVID-19.The 26-year-old Kapas writes in an Instagram post that she had to submit to testing in order to return to training.She says her first test was negative but a second test showed she has the virus. She is staying in quarantine at home for two weeks.Kapas says “I don’t have any symptoms yet and that’s why it’s important for you to know that even if you feel healthy you can spread the virus.”Kapas won gold in the 200-meter butterfly at the 2019 world championships in China and a bronze medal in the 800-meter freestyle at the 2016 Rio de Janeiro Olympics. Belarus President Alexander Lukashenko has been defiant about not limiting people’s movement, saying “it’s better to die standing than to live on your knees.”Baer-Hoffmann says FIFPro does not have a member union in Belarus but “we will be lobbying” to introduce precautions.___The Bundesliga soccer season will remain suspended through April because of the coronavirus pandemic.The 36 clubs in Germany’s top two divisions have agreed to accept the recommendation of the league authority to extend the period without games to April 30 at least. Commissioner Greg Sankey announced the move Tuesday and said the league will figure out a different way to meet to consider SEC operations and how to recognize award winners.The SEC meetings have been held annually the last week of May in Destin, Florida, since 1985.Sankey says the spring meetings are one of the SEC’s great traditions to celebrate the past year and plan for the future. He says the SEC knows canceling is the right move during this unprecedented public health crisis.___NASCAR star Joey Logano has established a $1 Million COVID-19 Response and Recovery Fund. The fund is from the Joey Logano Foundation in partnership with Elevation Church. The money will be used to address a variety of needs, including educational equity and access, medical supplies, food distribution, and financial shortages throughout the greater Charlotte, North Carolina area and communities across the United States.___The National Hockey League has extended its self-quarantine recommendation for players and staff until April 15.Deputy Commissioner Bill Daly confirmed the extension in an email to The Associated Press on Tuesday. The league had previously sent out a memo recommending self-quarantining until April 4. ___A $75 million rescue package was rolled out by English cricket’s governing body on Tuesday to help teams at all levels withstand the financial impact of the coronavirus pandemic. The England and Wales Cricket Board said 40 million pounds (about $50 million) was being made available at the top-tier level. More than 20 million pounds (about $25 million) will go to the local cricket clubs, via loans and grants. “It will be months before the full financial fallout is made clear,” ECB chief executive Tom Harrison said. “We will continue work with all of our partners to protect the ongoing health of the entire game in the short term and beyond.” The start of the English cricket season has been delayed until May 28 at the earliest. A range of options for cricket to begin in June, July or August are being modeled. ___Colombia’s soccer league has asked the country’s government to help clubs affected by the new coronavirus outbreak. The league tournament was stopped on March 13, with initial hopes for a restart in April. The head of the league, Jorge Enrique Vélez, says he doesn’t want taxpayer money but policies to support the affected. ___ He and his brother now are both TV analysts for tennis matches, sometimes working alongside each other in the booth.___Dr. Vivek Murthy, the former surgeon general of the United States under President Barack Obama and someone who has advised the NBA throughout the global coronavirus pandemic, will take questions from NBA fans later this week.The league is setting up a live question-and-answer session on its Twitter account with Murthy, beginning Wednesday at 4 p.m. Eastern.NBA fans are being urged to send in questions ahead of time to Murthy with the hashtag of #NBATogether. Zilina is second in the now-suspended Slovak league. The club played in the Champions League in 2010-11 but lost all six games in a group that included Chelsea and Marseille.___The Badminton World Federation has frozen the world rankings while the circuit is suspended.The rankings have been backdated to March 17. That was the day after the last international tournament, the All England Open. They will be the basis for entry and seeding into the next international tournaments, whenever they are.The world circuit is suspended to the end of April, but the BWF expects more tournaments to be put off in May and June. The NBA Together initiative was born “to support, engage, educate and inspire youth, families and fans in response to the coronavirus pandemic” and has seen members of the NBA family engaging globally with followers.Murthy’s new book, “Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World,” examines loneliness as a public health concern. It will be released April 28.___China’s government has ordered all major sports events to remain suspended because of the coronavirus outbreak, meaning the country’s basketball league will have to push back its planned restart. The Chinese Basketball Association had hoped to resume play in mid-April but was denied government approval to do so. Instead, China’s General Administration of Sport issued a statement saying any large sporting events that draw crowds “are temporarily not being resumed.” Bellator says it will try to reschedule the events as soon as it can.___Soccer players in Germany could be tested for the coronavirus before games if the season resumes.The German Football League says it has set up a medical task force which is working on a “procedure for the strict and independent testing of players and other staff members, including immediately prior to matchdays.”The league is also relaxing its financial fair play rules because it expects clubs will struggle to adapt to a prolonged shortfall in TV, ticket and sponsorship revenue.center_img Clubs which start insolvency proceedings this season won’t be hit with a mandatory nine-point deduction. The teams’ “liquidity situation” also won’t be considered when issuing licenses for next season.The Bundesliga hasn’t played a game since March 11. Clubs from the top two divisions have voted to extend the suspension to at least April 30.___The new ownership group of the Kansas City Royals, along with players, staff and the organization’s charitable arm are donating more than 500,000 meals to Harvesters, a local food bank helping those in need during the COVID-19 pandemic.Royals chairman John Sherman, who purchased the club late last year from David Glass, said in a statement that his group of players, executives and investors “share a deep connection to the Kansas City community, which is why the entire Royals family is coming together to do our part.” The agency did not give a timeline for when the suspensions may be lifted, but said it will “make timely adjustments according to the epidemic prevention and control situation.” The CBA has been suspended since Jan. 24 because of the spread of COVID-19. The league is reportedly considering a proposal to bring all 20 teams to one or two cities and play the remainder of the regular season in empty arenas.___Bellator has postponed its three cards set for May in the wake of the coronavirus pandemic.The MMA organization says it will try and reschedule Bellator 242 set for May 9 in San Jose, California, a May 16 card in London and Bellator 243 on May 29 in Temecula, California. ___Global soccer union FIFPro says soccer players in Belarus are worried about the continuing despite the coronavirus pandemic.FIFPro general secretary Jonas Baer-Hoffmann says “it’s not comprehendible” that the Belarus league is still playing after kicking off this month. It’s the only top-tier European league in action.Baer-Hoffmann says “there are players who are reaching out concerned.”Fans entering the stadiums in Belarus over the weekend were given antiseptic hand gel but few wore masks for protection. The last game played was on March 11.League president Christian Seifert says “the most important thing without question is controlling the outbreak of the virus and especially protecting groups at risk.”Training for the 36 clubs is to remain stopped until April 5.UEFA is to meet with its 55 members on Wednesday with the fate of the remaining Champions League, Europa League and international games to be discussed.___ So far, four NHL players — two each from the Ottawa Senators and Colorado Avalanche — have tested positive for COVID-19.— Reporting by Hockey Writer Stephen Whyno___The postponement of the Tokyo Olympics to the summer of 2021 will have an impact on numerous other events — including an Olympic-style event for sports that are not part of the Summer Games.The new dates for the Olympics — July 23-Aug. 8, 2021 — now overlaps with the 2021 World Games, which were set to be held in Birmingham, Alabama between July 15-25. Scotland rugby coach Gregor Townsend has agreed to a 25% salary deferral from April 1 to Sept. 1.The coaches of two professional sides, Richard Cockerill at Edinburgh and Dave Rennie at Glasgow, have made the same agreement, though Rennie begins his new job as Australia coach in July.Scottish Rugby also announced CEO Mark Dodson was taking a 30% deferral, and the board 25%.Last week, England coach Eddie Jones accepted a 25% pay cut.___ The Latest: Southeastern Conference cancels spring meetings Reigning NCAA women’s singles tennis champion Estela Perez-Somarriba has decided to delay the start of her professional career and remain at the University of Miami for another year.Perez-Somarriba, a senior, will take advantage of an NCAA decision Monday to give Division I spring-sport athletes an additional year of eligibility after the coronavirus pandemic curtailed their 2020 season.Perez-Somarriba won the singles title last May. She’s 141-23 at Miami and holds the school record for match victories.___Former U.S. Davis Cup captain Patrick McEnroe says in a video posted on social media that he tested positive for the coronavirus. ___Global soccer union FIFPro says seven-time Slovakian champion Zilina is opting for bankruptcy after offering players a “take it or leave it” 80% pay cut.FIFPro says it believes Zilina is the first European club to go into liquidation since the coronavirus outbreak.The union says Zilina “refused to negotiate with the (Slovak) player union.”The move follows the club selling 20-year-old forward Róbert Boženík to Feyenoord in January for a reported fee of about 4.5 million euros ($4.9 million). Associated Press It says it has yet to decide how the rankings will be unfrozen.The BWF says “it is difficult to outline the exact procedure until we have an exact overview of what the international calendar will look like once play resumes and suspended tournaments have been rescheduled.”With the Tokyo Olympics delayed until 2021, the BWF says it is reviewing the Olympic qualification process. It notes the consequences of freezing the world rankings does not apply to Olympic qualifying. ___Two-time mixed doubles champion Jamie Murray says he believes Wimbledon will be canceled. The All England Club board will hold an emergency meeting on Wednesday to discuss the fate of the 2020 tournament.The grasscourt season lasts only six weeks and Wimbledon is staged when daylight hours are the longest in Britain. The club has acknowledged the short window available to it and ruled out playing without spectators.The French Open has been postponed from May to September.The brother of two-time Wimbledon singles champion Andy Murray was asked whether he thinks a cancellation is more likely than a postponement. He told BBC Radio 4: “I think so. I think for them it is difficult to move the tournament back for many reasons, because you are running into other tournaments.”___ March 31, 2020 Federer posted footage on his social media accounts on Monday of him practising trick shots in his rehabilitation after surgery on his left knee in February.___More AP sports: https://apnews.com/apf-sports and https://twitter.com/AP_Sports,Tampa Bay Lightning advance to face Dallas Stars in Stanley Cup finals, beating New York Islanders 2-1 in OT in Game 6last_img read more

EPL Review: Sergio Aguero show sees Man City past Newcastle, Sunderland draw

first_imgSergio Aguero scored five goals as Manchester City came from behind to thrash Newcastle 6-1 at the Etihad Stadium.City end the day back on top of the Premier League after a resounding victory in which Aguero scored five in 20 minutes during a remarkable spell in which Kevin De Bruyne also netted for the hosts.Newcastle, who drew 2-2 with Chelsea last weekend after having held a two-goal lead, went ahead in the 18th minute when Aleksandar Mitrovic stooped to head home a Georginio Wijnaldum cross for his first goal since his summer move from Anderlecht.He saw a second goal ruled out for offside on 25 minutes, but City were level just before the break when Aguero beat Tim Krul with a diving header from Fernandinho’s headed assist.That sparked a goal glut that saw Aguero complete his hat trick by the 50th minute, with Kevin De Bruyne producing an acrobatic finish for his side’s fourth.Aguero added a further two goals in the 60th and 62nd minutes to match the Premier League record for goals in a single match before being substituted by manager Manuel Pellegrini four minutes later. Sunderland threw away a two-goal lead as they were held to a 2-2 draw West Ham United at the Stadium of Light.Sunderland, who had taken just two points from their opening seven games this season, went into the game on the back of strong speculation that coach Dick Advocaat had decided to walk away regardless of the result.However, Advocaat was given cause to reconsider his resignation as Steven Fletcher fired home following a Yann M’Vila corner on 10 minutes before Jeremain Lens chipped home a second on 22 minutes.Fabio Borini missed a glorious chance to make it 3-0 on 38 minutes, though, and his failure to hit the target was punished just before the break when Carl Jenkinson pulled one back for the Hammers. Sunderland then saw Lens sent off when he picked up a second booking on 57 minutes, and West Ham were level on the hour as Dimitri Payet fired home.Leicester City continued their impressive start to the season with a 2-1 victory at Norwich City.England international Jamie Vardy gave the Foxes the lead when he won and converted a penalty for his sixth goal in eight Premier League appearances.Leicester doubled their advantage shortly after the restart when Jeffrey Schlupp scored on the counter-attack, but Dieumerci Mbokani gave the hosts hope when he flicked home a Jonny Howson cross on 68 minutes.However, Leicester held on for a victory that leaves them fourth in the table. Aston Villa’s poor start to the season continued as they were beaten 1-0 at home by Stoke City.Stoke scored the only goal of the game on 55 minutes when Glen Johnson picked out Marko Arnautovic, who fired a low shot past Brad Guzan.Bournemouth played out a 1-1 draw with Watford.Glenn Murray gave Bournemouth the lead on his full debut for the club, heading past Heurelho Gomes on 28 minutes, but Watford were gifted an equaliser just before half-time when keeper Artur Boruc gave the ball away to Odion Ighalo for a simple finish.Murray had the chance to win it from the penalty spot late on, but Gomes made the save to give the Hornets a share of the spoils. Crystal Palace continued their impressive start to the season with a 2-0 home win over West Bromwich Albion in Saturday’s early game.Yannick Bolasie made the breakthrough when he headed home Yohan Cabaye’s superb cross from the left after 67 minutes, and Palace doubled their advantage when Wilfried Zaha won a late penalty, which Cabaye converted.–Follow Joy Sports on Twitter: @Joy997FM. Our hashtag is #JoySportslast_img read more

Revealed! The truth behind Arsenal’s ‘£40.3m offer’ for red hot goal scorer

first_img Alexandre Lacazette is wanted by Arsenal 1 Lyon have confirmed that Arsenal offered £29.4m for striker Alexandre Lacazette but dimissed reports that the Gunners had returned with a £40.3m bid.The north London club have been heavily linked with a move for the French hotshot, who has scored 48 Ligue 1 goals in his last 67 appearances.But Lyon have reacted angrily to a report in the Le Progres newspaper that claimed Arsenal had upped their initial offer, just shy of £30m, by a further £10m in a bid to get a deal over the line.And the French club have also insisted that they have no intention of selling the 25-year-old, who remains under contract until 2019.The official statement, released via Twitter, read: “Olympique Lyonnais categorically denies having received a €48m offer from Arsenal for Alexandre Lacazette like Le Progrès claims in their edition this morning.“The club regrets yet again that Le Progrès did not decide to contact us before publishing this false information that has created confusion on the day where the Group, on the stock exchange, publishes its annual accounts showing €218.1m, a progression of 111% from 2014/15.“The reality is that the club Arsenal made an offer worth €35m, which Lyon did not follow up on for one reason: OL will keep Alexandre Lacazette who is irreplaceable and who is one of the main leaders in Bruno Genesio’s squad.”last_img read more